Crying over spilt milk


 When the communists demolished my grandfather’s apricot orchard and took away his two cows, he was furious and he cried but it was too late. My grandmother then kept saying for years: you should have done something about that before the elections. And that is what I say too: all the moans and complaints (no matter what they’re about) are simply just cries over a spilt milk – we let it all happen and it’s done. No amount of subsequent corrections will help it. In that respect they’re useless. The solution is however very simple – never to spill that milk, rather than expending energy and time thinking how best to wipe it.

 Most of the western allopathic medicine, as well as the (right or left wing) of world politics, or the revolutions and war conflicts only confirm that we’re incapable of learning our lesson for good. For example: the corruption, the abuse of power and dictatorship are not new things happening to us today, they have been here since the ancient Greeks and especially the Romans. The problems of our history and our society with the patriarchal dictatorships of conquerors (who themselves were born “damaged” individuals), is our inability to learn as a humanity (in general) and as each one of us as individuals. In our country well known “Russian style”of wrapping new born babies very tightly in blankets is a synonym of the tight and rigid rules of the obstetrics in the former Eastern block countries.

 Forgive me repeating myself: I can not stress enough that the vast majority of all the efforts by the government (within our country or any other country in the world) to maintain or sustain is merely wiping off the spilt milk – not one bit ever focuses on the prevention itself. Yes, I will say it again, because it’s dead simple: if we do not spill the milk in the first place, we don’t have to work so hard to wipe it off. And the energy saved by being prudent about it can be so much more wisely invested in more useful things in life.

 If we look at it today, it seems too complicated: we seem to have less time to think about what went wrong, let alone think about what we need to do to change it. But the real solution is not complicated at all. It has a zen-like simplicity, just like in the case of Alexander the Great who disentangled the famous Gordian knot by cutting it in half. The solution of the problems of our society is just as simple and it is totally up to us. We need to start right at the beginning and make sure simply not to do the damage rather than working out the way to minimize it.

 As the famous saying goes – we can’t see the wood for the trees (and if you think about it, we are the victims of our own programming – or programs of our own mind. But who should be in control of it if not us?). There was a an experiment: at a basketball game, the seated audience was asked to count how many times the ball gets passed between the teams. Five minutes into the game, a man dressed in a gorilla costume ran across the field. At the end of the game, the audience was asked if they noticed a man in a gorilla suit, and as it emerged, most of the people never even noticed him. This example shows the ability of human mind to focus on something to such extent, that we completely miss the world around it (and the big picture altogether). This is how the bankers, politicians, doctors or philosophers focus so much on the solution, while completely disregarding (unable to take into account) the fact that preventing the problems from the beginning would be far easier and better way for everybody.

 The Gordian knots of our own thinking can be resolved just as easily (instead of working out how to disentangle them we should just cut through them). The solution is elegant and simple. As I mentioned above, the best solution is to start right at the beginning – if you don’t spill it you don’t have to wipe it off. So where would be a better start than right at the beginning of a human life, at birth? The first and fundamental problem are the (over) medicalized and traumatic childbirths. Our children are in risk of being damaged by the careless mothers who don’t take their future role seriously enough and continue smoking, drinking and after birth neglecting their children who simply continue the same vicious circle of damage (knowingly or unknowingly – but let’s be honest here, with all the information that is available today, who can actually say “unknowingly”?).Please don’t get me wrong, it is a great success that the medicine can help and treat so many people to improve the quality of their lives. For example people who after an accident are able to walk again; but wouldn’t it be so much better never to be in an accident and be injured?

 I allow myself a daydream, that if I had a lot of money, I would absolutely invest it all in the change in the obstetrics in general. I would also invest in the change of school systems (and wages of teachers), as well as promoting the good impact of good news in our everyday lives (rather than all the horrors of bad news we’re bombarded with everyday – just switch on any random news channel). I would also promote the importance of healthy food and good eating habits. But most of all, I would invest in an annual award for those who achieve enlightenment. I would also see that some percentage of those people who were born through natural birth (and therefore logically the smartest ones) are raised outside the usual infrastructures (to allow them to get different perspective on things, or promote their genius, if you like): it is a well known fact, that if there is a seemingly unsolvable problem, it should be given to somebody who doesn’t know it can’t be solved and simply goes on and resolves it.

 Because we have been studying and focusing solely on problems (or diseases – in a medicinal perspective) and how to resolve them for far too long now. We’ve simply forgot to check the light at the end of the tunnel, however this is our hope always – it’s something we’ve always had and always will have (just like every cloud has its silver lining). The realist in me is however somewhat sceptical that before my meaning is understood, we might well be at the “wiping off the spilt milk” stage.